Review – Facing Failure by Michael Comer
April 18, 2016 – Class at Bipolar Insights / Mental Health Educational Center
As the class was about to begin, we all looked to the white board with anticipation as each week, Marcia writes one word, a word to stimulate our thought process.
This day Marcia wrote, “Failure.” As the sound of moaning sweep through the room, we thought, here we go, I have to face all my failures. I think we all wanted to go home, but we stayed as Marcia has a way of taking a word that implies negative and turning it to positive.
You might get negative feelings when you read or hear that word out loud; you might feel like failure is familiar.
Failure can be described as a learning opportunity, your journey. Failure is when you persist and recover in order to walk the road to success and stability. Feeling failure is being brave, overcoming, and focusing. It is not about dwelling on your failures, but learning from your mistakes and doing better next time.
Everybody has failed! In some way, shape, or form, we have all failed at something.
People with mental health issues invariably sometimes grow up to feel like a failure. Instead of loving themselves and having self-respect like they naturally should, they feel like they have failed in their lives or even failed at life itself. It becomes “I’m no good,” “I’m bad,” or “I’m wrong and ME (not my actions) are what is broken and I need to be fixed.” What needs to be fixed is the behavior. You are somebody! You have value and you have worth. That means that you are worth something and worthy of love and good health.
If you never fail, you would never learn. We need someone to say you can do it, come on you can do this! Whether you have mental health issues or not, we all need support in our life and encouragement from our friends and family.
Schizoaffective disorder is a mood disorder. Schizophrenia is a thought disorder. Schizoaffective is what doctors and psychiatrists say when they’re referring to someone who has bipolar disorder but is experiencing psychotic symptoms that mimic Schizophrenia – such as hearing voices or seeing things that are not there.
If you don’t cycle you don’t have bipolar disorder. Everybody has moods like a normal human being has so it’s important to distinguish an angry mood vs. mania for instance. You can’t blame every single mood on the illness.
Whenever you talk to someone, validate them.
What does validating mean? EQI.org says, “To validate someone’s feelings is first to accept someone’s feelings. Next, it is to understand them, and finally it is to nurture them.”
“I can accept failure, everyone fails at something. But I can’t accept not trying.” ~Michael Jordan
“Keep love in your heart. A life without it is like a sunless garden when the flowers are dead.” ~Oscar Wilde