Review – Creating Conversation by Michael Comer
April 25, 2016 – Class at Bipolar Insights / Mental Health Educational Center
“When you don’t talk, there’s a lot of stuff that ends up not getting said.”
What is a conversation? Conversation takes more than one person and can be defined as talking, communicating, providing instructions, giving feedback, or healing. Ultimately, conversations is sharing and listening. You can’t have a conversation with someone and not share.
For instance, a family member that has trouble communicating with an individual that has a mental health issue could say something like, “Did you look for a job today?” And the person that has a disorder would probably say, “No! Why do you always bother me with that?”
With proper training in communications, that same family member could learn to say, “I saw some great jobs today that you might be interested in. I know it’s hard to find a job or even look for one, let alone keep one, but I believe in you and I know we could do it together.”
When you don’t agree, you have to find a way to share with them, validate their feelings, and move forward in a positive and constructive way. So often we allow negative thinking to become a habit and then destructive behavior overtakes over. We need to build up our self-respect and unity together and work on constructive actions to set ourselves up for success.
When you reach out, don’t tell them what to do, don’t ask questions! Otherwise, the person will walk away and not say anything to you. The message here is to validate the person and what they are saying, no matter if you agree with what they’re saying or not.
You can learn how to change how you respond to a person. Don’t react. Sharing is sharing who you are.
“The garden of love is green without limit and yields many fruits other than sorrow or joy. Love is beyond either condition: without spring, without autumn, it is always fresh.” -Rumi